Before the date
- Confirm they are real: photos, name, number and a quick video call. See how to check if someone is real.
- Optional: check the national public sex offender registry at NSOPW.gov.
- Use a Google Voice number until you know them better.
- Do not share your home address or workplace yet.
- Send a friend their name, a photo, their number and profile screenshot, plus where and when you are meeting.
- Agree on a check-in time and a code word that means "call me with an emergency".
Do your pre-date check
Private search. They are never notified.
Setting up the date
- Pick a busy public place you know: a coffee shop or bar with staff and other people.
- Daytime or early evening for the first meeting.
- Get there and home on your own (drive, transit or a rideshare you booked).
- Keep it short: an hour is plenty for a first date.
During the date
- Keep your phone charged and with you.
- Watch your drink being made and do not leave it unattended.
- You can leave at any time, for any reason. Many bars recognize "Ask for Angela" or similar code phrases for help.
- Do not go to a second private location on a first date.
After the date
- Text your friend when you are home.
- If anything felt off, trust it. You do not owe anyone a second date or an explanation.
- Report anyone who was threatening or violent to the app and, if needed, police. RAINN (1-800-656-4673) offers confidential support.